Long Story Short
Couples who drink together — or go sober together — are more satisfied with their marriage, according to a recent study. But don’t take this as carte blanche to just go get wasted every night and peer pressure your partner to drink as well. It doesn’t matter how much you drink, just that you drink about as frequently.
No need to worry about your marriage lasting until you’re old and grey, it’s going to be fine. The reason: Booze!
A recent study published in the Journals of Gerontology provided the news that couples who drink alcohol together report “decreased negative marital quality over time.” This result was especially the case with wives who drank when their hubbies drank too, or abstained when their husbands abstained. Pretty much, if she drinks, it’s good if you do too. She doesn’t, you don’t.
The results were gathered from face-to-face interviews and questions about drinking habits with 4,864 married adults over 50. The average married couple were hitched for 33 years and two-thirds were on their first marriage.
But why is this the case? The researchers don’t even know. “We’re not sure why this is happening,” said study author Kira Birditt of the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor to Reuters Health, “but it could be that couples that do more leisure time activities together have better marital quality.”
So going out and doing activities with your partner (activities as adults tend to involve boozing), can keep the fire alive well past that midlife crisis and into those golden years.
But hold on a sec before rushing off to the wine cellar or hitting up the store for a case. Firstly, the study didn’t find any difference with how much the couples drank — so a glass of wine or a pint of beer is perfectly fine. No need to get wasted. And alcoholics, as you’d expect, tend to have terrible relationships with others, especially their partners. So keep it responsible.
And with that, go out and get your spouse their favorite boozy drink from the store (as long as they drink). It’s worth celebrating the long and happy marriage you’re going to have!
You can still own the conversation by
Asking the big question
If she can’t or doesn’t want to drink, is it really so bad if you go out for drinks with the guys once a week?
Drop this fact
Besides boozing together, two more key traits to making a marriage last are generosity and kindness.